5 More Quick Happiness Boosts for Bloggers

Hey bloggers! It's time to get happy with these 5 quick happiness boosts. Click through to read these quick happiness boosters for bloggers and download your free cheatsheet.

Today I'm trying something a bit different. As I've talked about previously, I want to try a few different things out in this whole blogging thing, and today I am pretty happy to be introducing audio posts. Check out the recording below to get your ears on five of my happiness boosts for bloggers.

 
 

Not a fan of listening to posts? Well, I've got you covered too, friend. Check out the summary below:

We all have our down days where we're just not feeling it. When doing the work that we usually love can feel like a total drag. Here are some of my five top happiness boosts for bloggers:

Happiness Boost #1: Having flowers or plants in your workspace

Liven up your space with flowers or plants to add a shot of nature to your office. It will inject some brightness and freshness into your day.

Happiness Boost #2: Gratitude

Get out of your own head, and take a few minutes to write down some of the things that make life that little bit better.

Happiness Boost #3: Crank up the tunes!

Feeling down? Try something upbeat. A bit frustrated? Put on some a chilled track and just float away. Metaphorically of course!

Happiness Boost #4: Get creative doing something other than work

Break out of the work you're doing and try something different. Creative pursuits are fun and allow different parts of your brain to fire up.

Happiness Boost #5: Help someone else

Being useful is a great boost to morale and could be just what the doctor ordered to lift you from a down mood. And someone else gets some help too! Win win.

Enjoyed these happiness boosts? Well, there's more where that come from! Check out 5 Happiness Boosts for Bloggers. Spoiler alert: it has a free cheatsheet too!

Now it's your turn. Have you tried any of these before? Do you have any other tips and tricks you use to boost your happiness? Let me know in the comments below – I’d love to hear from you. 

Why Taking Care of Yourself Makes You a Better Entrepreneur

An entrepreneur takes on so many roles in order to run a successful business, especially as an online creative. Blogger. Designer. Accountant. Marketer. CEO. This can be one of the greatest joys of running your own business, but also the biggest challenge. So how do you manage all this and not lose your mind? I’ve put together a resource to help with just this problem. Click through to read these helpful tips and access your free self-care resource and meditations.

Working to create a business and life you love can be the most amazing experience. You have the opportunity every day to create something meaningful and help others in the process. Indeed, when you hit your stride, running your own creative enterprise can be incredibly exciting and rewarding. When in the zone, you may have so much on the go but yet you still feel excited and challenged and passionate about what you do, and carried along on a contact high of productivity that it feels like you could go for hours without needing to come up for air.

But this is not always the way unfortunately. Being an entrepreneur can also be exhausting, frustrating and heartbreaking. You give so much of yourself to your work that coming up against challenges and continually not seeing results can leave you depleted and disenchanted. Add to this the countless hours you need to commit to getting everything done, as well as everything else in your daily life still demanding your attention, and pretty soon your health and overall wellbeing can take a beating. Feeling this way can fast become a slippery slope into overwhelm and before you know it your groove gets jolted and you have so much to do and not enough energy or time to do it. Your headspace clouds over and you feel buried by all the junk that life and work throws at you.

I totally get it. We all feel this way at times (sometimes all the time!) and in creating and working on my business I have had times when I’ve felt so overwhelmed and fundamentally challenged that I’ve reached the point of wondering if I should just pack it all in and go back to the 9-to-5 grind. Thankfully my loathing of my former ‘career’ and deep desire for freedom has helped me stay the course, but as I kept coming up against this cycle I knew I needed a way to stop getting to breaking point. I realised that digging myself out of a rut can take a lot of energy and patience, and while it’s totally possible, wouldn’t it be better to just avoid going there in the first place?

Are you feeling this too?

To help you out (because that’s what I’m here for!) I wanted to share some of the ways I know to help get back on track, and to stop myself from spiralling too far into a depression. Along with these tips, I have just created and launched a free (yep, you heard it right, free!) online email series to help folks, especially busy entrepreneurs, to take control of their self-care and get some quick strategies to get happier and able to get back to creating your world-changing empire more quickly. More about that at the end… (or you could just sign up now with this form below if you're keen:)

Okeydokes, here we go. Read on for some of my top strategies for improving your self-care today:

BOOST YOUR OVERALL WELLBEING

If you ask Google to ‘define wellbeing’ (and I did) the first result you’ll see is the definition that wellbeing is ‘the state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy.’ Sounds like something we all strive for, and certainly worth pursuing, yet so many of us relegate our health and happiness to the bottom of our to-do list and treat caring for ourselves as either an afterthought or something that gets done if we ever get time. “Sweet heavens above, please let me find the time!” We long to take care of ourselves, but as a culture we don’t, or can’t, seem to prioritise it. We idealise an overloaded schedule and constantly strive to prove we can do, be and have more. No wonder we all get so burnt out! 

This behaviour is kind crazy and definitely counterproductive to living a good life. By being in the best state of comfort, health and happiness we are able to more present and engaged in our lives, and filling our time with a frenzied pace doesn't allow us to create the space we need to care for ourselves. When we truly take care of ourselves so much of the drama and overwhelm melts away, we're able to see improvements across all the areas of our lives. We have better relationships because we’re less testy and more present. Our work will naturally improve as our concentration levels are better and our access to creativity and innovation gets clearer. So, to borrow an old-fashioned expression, prioritising everything and everyone else in our lives before our own wellbeing is like putting the cart before the horse. In other words, the wrong way around!

Looking for a way to kick-start your journey back to wellbeing, but not sure where to start? Or maybe you’re doing ok at taking care of yourself but sometimes it gets away from you. Either way I’ve got you covered! I’ve created a meditation to help you stop the busy busyness of your work, your day, your thoughts, and get a wellbeing check in. The best part? It’s under 10 minutes long so is a great way to get started and not be too big a time drainer.

Get it here as part of the free five-day self-care series:

IDENTIFY YOUR DERAILERS

Similar to the point above, looking at your life and being able to identify what is not working for you and where you might have your priorities out of alignment can be the start of some beautiful changes.

One element of this is being able to recognise what keeps tripping you up as you work towards creating and living a great life. I call these ‘derailers’ as they knock you off track again and again. You’re cruising along, then wham, these elements crop up and before you know it you’re either heading in the wrong direction or have stopped moving forward completely.

Being able to identify these derailers will allow you to get back on track more quickly or, even better, stop from being derailed in the first place.

Derailers can be unconscious behaviours like popping into Facebook to check one thing and suddenly realising you’ve been on there for two hours, or hurdles and challenges you weren’t expecting (super common when you’re in business for yourself!). You may find that others are thwarting your efforts to get more done either through general distraction or by expressing their very present needs (such as a hungry child or a client who contacts you in a panic with an urgent project change or request).

When we become derailed from our original focus it can feel upsetting and frustrating, and add to this that all too often we can also feel disappointed in ourselves for not sticking to our original intention. We might become angry or short-tempered and the last thing we feel during these times is calm and in control.

Being able to identify these derailers allows us to get ahead of them and create strategies to lessen or even negate these obstacles. It may be as simple as adding 25% time allowance for every project you plan or setting a timer before you enter the murky time-sucking vortex of social media. Heck, even allow yourself time to check social media where you can just follow your nose and spend an hour there. This is not about denying yourself distractions, but rather it is a way of stopping distractions, disappointments and life from derailing your objectives. You're ultimately setting yourself up for a win, rather than allowing yourself to keep being knocked off track.

Want more tips on overcoming derailers? Check out my post on 5 Common Derailers for Newbie Bloggers

MEDITATION

I know that I find meditation super beneficial (when I remember to do it!). It helps still my busy, busy brain and allows me to find clarity when trying to solve a problem. I’m not alone here. There’s so much research to demonstrate the benefits meditation can have in our lives, health, happiness and so much more. I’m not going to bombard you with statistics and research, but here are few resources worth checking out if you have time:

I have a super active imagination and while this is often one of my greatest assets, it can also make more traditional, silent meditation a big challenge and kind of a drag. My thoughts just keep coming at me and I get annoyed that I just can’t get it together, and the thoughts keep swirling around and around, and thus the cycle continues. This feeling of frustration makes it hard to implement and stick with a regular meditation practice because there's no real benefit. This is where guided meditations come in. I find it so much easier to still my mind when I can be taken on a journey, and just allow myself to let go of my thoughts without having to do all the heavy lifting. I still get so much benefit from the experience but so much of the pressure has been taken off and I find this helps me maintain the desire to keep up the practice.

You know I've got your back, my friend, and I’m here to help you out. Like I mentioned above, I have recently created a couple of guided meditations as part of my free self-care series as I see these as really effective tools in improving wellbeing, and I want to help folks get the benefits of meditation without the hard work.

I’m really proud of how these turned out and feel like they really are the stars of the program. You should totally sign up for this series just to get your hands on them!

EMBRACE ACCEPTANCE

Acceptance is one of these principles we all understand, can see the value in and want to embrace, yet it is also one tricky little fiend. I would love to achieve acceptance in all things and move through the world like a zen monk, being untouched emotionally by others and their shortcomings, and generally being a loving creature. But alas, this is not simple. In fact, I think acceptance is one of the trickiest emotions to embrace.

Acceptance means that we allow something to be, without trying to change it or exert our will, or force something to be other than it is. This sounds simple enough, but when something or someone acts in a manner which is so contrary to what you believe it should be then acceptance can feel impossible.

However, acceptance isn’t about blithely embracing things without question. Rather, acceptance is taking away the anger and emotional attachment to an issue, and therefore freeing you up to focus your attention and energy in a more positive way.

If you’d like to explore how to better embrace acceptance in your life and business, I have a handy meditation to help you in creating more acceptance in your life, I have a whole section dedicated to this in the self-care series.

MAKE THE COMMITMENT. SHOW UP.

One of the best things you can do to honour your self-care is to continue to make the commitment to be kind to yourself, and actively engage in ways to improve your health, happiness and comfort. Not only will you find it easier to pull yourself out of a spiral into overwhelm before you're too far gone, but you'll find that you head toward these negatively feelings less and less because you naturally have a better mindset.

Will you let me help you get started?

In the self-care series I've put together some of my best strategies to help cultivate the right mindset for creating a better business and life. I know I’ve spoken a lot about the series in this article, but this is because I created it especially for the purpose of helping folks, especially bloggers, creative and entrepreneurs, to make self-care easier and allow themselves to enjoy the process of running a business and working towards creating an amazing life.

I wanted to make sure this series gave you resources to get ahead in the self-care game as well as tools you could use when you're in a bad headspace and need some help to get you out.

I'd love it if you signed up. I know it could help you improve your overall happiness and believe that when we are in the best headspace, we are able to create our best work and show up fully in life.

Reward yourself!

Hi there and I hope your week, and month, so far has been a great one.

The end of each month is a time of reflection for me. Not in a huge way but I like to think about what I’ve been up to and what I’d like to welcome in my life soon. It’s a nice opportunity to think about change, that which I’ve made and that which I would like to make.

Which brings me to talking about a nice way to help make positive change in life.

When it comes to making change or working toward goals for ourselves, (to borrow from a tried and true analogy) it is so easy to use too much stick and not enough carrot. We tend to beat ourselves up for what we haven’t done, yet gloss over any of our successes as something we should have done anyway. We might feel happy or proud of ourselves but at the same time we focus on the next, as-yet unattained step rather than stopping to savour the sweet taste of making something from nothing.

Small or large, the very act of crossing something off the list or making good on a promise to ourselves is an act worthy of celebration. A perfect way to do this is to include rewards as part of the dreaming and goal-setting process.

Can you imagine how much more fun working toward a goal would be if you knew there were these little nuggets waiting for you at milestones along the way?

Knowing that you’ve got a massage waiting for you once you’ve finished the first five chapters of your novel makes those punishing hours at the laptop that much more tolerable, and how much more proud would you feel if you took a pause after this achievement than if you just started punching out chapter six?

I think that’s what they in the business call a ‘win-win.’

Building in the rewards should be fun in itself! It adds a nice magical element when thinking about goals to allow yourself to properly sit down and list all the stuff you’d love to do, all the things you only do when you’re ‘treating’ yourself, and then to purposefully set these against particular milestones toward creating the life you want.

This sounds just crazy enough to work.

The other great thing about rewarding yourself is that after you do, you will begin to associate the process of the change you are undertaking with the pleasant rewards you have given yourself, boosting your good feelings about the whole thing in general and making it more likely for you to stay on track. Talk about the gift that keeps on giving!

One caveat in this is to ensure the rewards we set for ourselves are not contrary to our values or the end goal. Buying a gorgeous and (obviously!) expensive pair of handmade Italian leather boots isn’t the best way to celebrate paying off debt, nor is it a good way to reward yourself if you have a hunch that you’d have more fun taking your niece and nephew to the movies than to spend a day shopping.

The best part is that the rewards are just for you so make them as fabulous and meaningful as your imagination can muster.

Then let me know how you’d go – I’d love to hear all about the great ideas you have for rewards. I daresay a few of these will get added to my list too!

Why you need to bet on yourself

Betting on yourself means carrying a belief that you can set out to achieve what you imagine. You are capable. You are worthwhile. You can and will make great things happen for yourself and you are a person who is happy in themselves.

For some of us, this level of confidence comes as naturally as breathing. For others it can feel like a foreign land where everyone else is in control and you don’t speak the language.

This lack of faith in ourselves is a learned behaviour. Most of us will all too easily be able to recall an instance in our lives where someone we love and trusted said something that shook our belief in ourselves. A family member who laughed at your innermost desires or a teacher who belittled the work you tried so hard to create. The danger is that we start to believe this fiction and it becomes our reality.

As a culture, we love to bring down people when they seem too big for their boots. Tall Poppy Syndrome. Knock her down a peg or two. Pride comes before a fall. The fabric of this cultural norm all too often informs the way we speak to ourselves, keeping us small so we don’t rock the boat, and further adds to the doubt and negativity we ascribe our own thoughts and actions. But betting on yourself is not about arrogance, it is about having faith in your ability to create the life you want to lead.

I recently attended a meditation retreat where the instructor asked us to imagine our five year-old self sitting on our knee and looking to us for affection and comfort. Would you say cruel and damaging things to this child? Of course not! But we often say these things to our adult selves and don’t question the validity of the statement or how hurtful these may be to our self-esteem. If we can’t be kind and loving to ourselves, then surely nobody could be! I better just keep my head down and stay quiet.

This is flawed thinking but it is consistently reinforced by the messages we hear all around us.

Betting on yourself puts you front and centre at the creation of the life you want to live. It allows you to think audaciously about the life you could lead and suddenly new possibilities open themselves up to you. There will always be obstacles and I’m not suggesting the path will always be golden, but you certainly will never take the steps toward that happiness if you can’t imagine a path to begin with.

At the risk of sounding trite, let me repeat the first part of this article to you again because I know it to be true:

You are capable. You are worthwhile. You can and will make great things happen for yourself and you are a person who is happy in themselves.

I would invite you to observe how you treat yourself and what your inner thoughts say to you about your own worth. Do you offer yourself the kindness and love you would treat others with?

Please share in the comments an example of when you realised how you had been speaking to yourself negatively impacted your life, or perhaps a way in which you will now look at how you plan to bet on yourself more. I’d love to hear from you.